Why does that thought come into our minds?
Do we truly need rest from our day to day activities/work?
On what/whose scale do you use to proclaim, ok, i am stressed out and need a break?
Everyone thinks that they have been working very hard, but outsiders might not agree. So who is right???
Friday, July 3, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Why are you not grateful?
This is "dedicated" to the person who snores most in my life
Why are you not grateful that you can wake up every morning?
Why are you not grateful that you can snore your way to sleep every night?
Why are you not grateful that you have a lovely home to return to?
Why are you not grateful that you have all four limbs still intact?
Why are you not grateful that you have a relatively healthy body?
Why are you not grateful that you are able to enjoy delicious food?
Why are you not grateful that you can indulge in your passions?
Why are you not grateful that you have techy stuff to play with?
Why are you not grateful that you have a job?
Why are you not grateful that you can travel on holidays?
Why are you not grateful that you have family and friends around you?
Why is it humans can have so much but still complain that they are lacking???
The cows, the chickens, the pigs have it worst. They are reared and butchered for food, and have to suffer diseases that most likely were transmitted by/from humans, and ended up being blamed for it.
How can we be so selfish and lacking in gratitude???
Why are you not grateful that you can wake up every morning?
Why are you not grateful that you can snore your way to sleep every night?
Why are you not grateful that you have a lovely home to return to?
Why are you not grateful that you have all four limbs still intact?
Why are you not grateful that you have a relatively healthy body?
Why are you not grateful that you are able to enjoy delicious food?
Why are you not grateful that you can indulge in your passions?
Why are you not grateful that you have techy stuff to play with?
Why are you not grateful that you have a job?
Why are you not grateful that you can travel on holidays?
Why are you not grateful that you have family and friends around you?
Why is it humans can have so much but still complain that they are lacking???
The cows, the chickens, the pigs have it worst. They are reared and butchered for food, and have to suffer diseases that most likely were transmitted by/from humans, and ended up being blamed for it.
How can we be so selfish and lacking in gratitude???
Trust. Respect. Choice
For those who heard of this before, let me clarify, this is not a post about AWARE.
It's about the importance of the values of Trust, Respect and Choice in any relationship.
Some couples get married and forget that their spouse is still an individual, one who has their own opinions and right to act. We tend to forget that our spouse has their own right to make their choices, even those that might not be favourable to the family.
In times like this, we need to trust them and respect their decision. but of course it is easier said than done.
What would you do or how would you react if you learnt that your spouse quit his/her job even though you dont quite agree with the decision? (Or other major decisions without your consent)
Yes, there might be bills to pay, the economy is lousy, unemployment rate is high, it was a high paying job...
the reasons to stay are endless, but have you truly listened and understood the reason behind the choice. did you show respect and trust that the choice is the right one?
Sometimes it's about respect, sometimes it's about communication. but end of the day, you love the person and should show your support and/or respect.
I would, even if it was a totally silly decision. People have to learn to make mistakes, and grow from there. If they never took that first step, they would never know where it would led them to.
Challenges and Opportunities are pretty much the same thing, just depending on how you view them.
Trust that the Choice is right. Respect Choice.
It's about the importance of the values of Trust, Respect and Choice in any relationship.
Some couples get married and forget that their spouse is still an individual, one who has their own opinions and right to act. We tend to forget that our spouse has their own right to make their choices, even those that might not be favourable to the family.
In times like this, we need to trust them and respect their decision. but of course it is easier said than done.
What would you do or how would you react if you learnt that your spouse quit his/her job even though you dont quite agree with the decision? (Or other major decisions without your consent)
Yes, there might be bills to pay, the economy is lousy, unemployment rate is high, it was a high paying job...
the reasons to stay are endless, but have you truly listened and understood the reason behind the choice. did you show respect and trust that the choice is the right one?
Sometimes it's about respect, sometimes it's about communication. but end of the day, you love the person and should show your support and/or respect.
I would, even if it was a totally silly decision. People have to learn to make mistakes, and grow from there. If they never took that first step, they would never know where it would led them to.
Challenges and Opportunities are pretty much the same thing, just depending on how you view them.
Trust that the Choice is right. Respect Choice.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
钻牛角尖
Hope I got the chinese words right. Long time since i had to choose the correct word for the phrase.
Why is it that humans like to think and think and think?
I am not a good one to comment, since I do that too, but it is quite silly right?
Why must they dig deeper and deeper into something that already has an obvious answer?
Or when that obvious answer is right in front of them, they ignore?
If there is only one way out, more time spent on thinking wont produce another answer. you can analyse till the cows come home, and the answer is still the same. we are sometimes too inflexible, or we are blinded to the truth.
The truth that life is impermanent.
When you understand this fact of life, nothing much else matters. and you wont need to think and analyse all your decisions.
Why is it that humans like to think and think and think?
I am not a good one to comment, since I do that too, but it is quite silly right?
Why must they dig deeper and deeper into something that already has an obvious answer?
Or when that obvious answer is right in front of them, they ignore?
If there is only one way out, more time spent on thinking wont produce another answer. you can analyse till the cows come home, and the answer is still the same. we are sometimes too inflexible, or we are blinded to the truth.
The truth that life is impermanent.
When you understand this fact of life, nothing much else matters. and you wont need to think and analyse all your decisions.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Clear comprehension of purpose
Read about this in the Meditator's Atlas, but I forgot what it was all about.
But i personally feel that everyone needs a purpose. (So Ave Q; for those who watched it)
And finding your purpose isnt an easy task. A Purpose is so much broader and wider than just earning a lot of money, being a Director or CEO. It should be something that reflects your whole life, and not just a portion of it. Something that gives you the drive and motivation to move forward in life. That keeps you going when the chips are down.
It's hard to realise/find your purpose, even harder to fully comprehend it and achieve it.
Is a purpose a dream? a goal? Dreams and goals seem more short-term (or even short-sighted) to me. While a purpose emcompasses your whole life, your whole existence.
How do you manage to live day after day if you do not know what you are living for, and why?
But i personally feel that everyone needs a purpose. (So Ave Q; for those who watched it)
And finding your purpose isnt an easy task. A Purpose is so much broader and wider than just earning a lot of money, being a Director or CEO. It should be something that reflects your whole life, and not just a portion of it. Something that gives you the drive and motivation to move forward in life. That keeps you going when the chips are down.
It's hard to realise/find your purpose, even harder to fully comprehend it and achieve it.
Is a purpose a dream? a goal? Dreams and goals seem more short-term (or even short-sighted) to me. While a purpose emcompasses your whole life, your whole existence.
How do you manage to live day after day if you do not know what you are living for, and why?
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Sweet sweet love
I forgot what I wanted to write when I first came up with this title. hm...
Anyway, sweet sweet love seems to be a phase that most of us go thru when we are young and supposedly innocent. The belief in the everlasting powers of love, basking in the warm attention from the other half, etc.
So often do we see the 萌芽romance on the streets, the school gal and boy in the first bloom of romance. Most of the time it is sweet, until expectations are not met, promises not fulfilled, and changes evolving.
"Attached to your loved ones,
you are stirred up like water"
How true. When you really reflect, you will realise that alot of your identity is based on your relationship with the other half. You are identified as a wife, as a mother, as the daughter-in-law, etc. And your emotions tend to be tied to how things are going in your relationship.
Is it really worthwhile to lose your identity, to lose the peace and calmness?
When you are less attached (this doesnt mean that you love them any less), your emotions are more controlled, and you will not swing wildly from happy to angry in an instance.
You understand that while you love them, nothing last forever in this world/life, and you learn to let go of more. Let go of the anger when they create a mess, when they are not listening to you, when they ignore your instructions. You are attached to the fact that the husband should do so and so and so. Hence the arising of emotions when things either go or not your way.
I would rather be as calm as the surface of a pond than to be raging like a waterfall or rapids.
Anyway, sweet sweet love seems to be a phase that most of us go thru when we are young and supposedly innocent. The belief in the everlasting powers of love, basking in the warm attention from the other half, etc.
So often do we see the 萌芽romance on the streets, the school gal and boy in the first bloom of romance. Most of the time it is sweet, until expectations are not met, promises not fulfilled, and changes evolving.
"Attached to your loved ones,
you are stirred up like water"
How true. When you really reflect, you will realise that alot of your identity is based on your relationship with the other half. You are identified as a wife, as a mother, as the daughter-in-law, etc. And your emotions tend to be tied to how things are going in your relationship.
Is it really worthwhile to lose your identity, to lose the peace and calmness?
When you are less attached (this doesnt mean that you love them any less), your emotions are more controlled, and you will not swing wildly from happy to angry in an instance.
You understand that while you love them, nothing last forever in this world/life, and you learn to let go of more. Let go of the anger when they create a mess, when they are not listening to you, when they ignore your instructions. You are attached to the fact that the husband should do so and so and so. Hence the arising of emotions when things either go or not your way.
I would rather be as calm as the surface of a pond than to be raging like a waterfall or rapids.
Friday, June 19, 2009
2 addicts of Ninja Warrior
Took a bus the other day, and while I was boarding the bus and moving towards the rear, I heard the music of Ninja Warriors. I was so excited that I "ran" to a seat, plopped myself down and settled down to watch.
Well, I wasnt the only one. There was another school girl across me, who seemed like she was totally caught up in that game show too.
The whole point here isn't on Ninja Warriors. It's the fact that I was/am so addicted to that show.
When you reflect, there is nothing really worth the attachment. It is just a game show. No matter that it is very exciting and interesting. Once it is over, the pleasure and joy is gone. (at least until the next episode)
But I am still addicted to it. Sigh.
Well, I wasnt the only one. There was another school girl across me, who seemed like she was totally caught up in that game show too.
The whole point here isn't on Ninja Warriors. It's the fact that I was/am so addicted to that show.
When you reflect, there is nothing really worth the attachment. It is just a game show. No matter that it is very exciting and interesting. Once it is over, the pleasure and joy is gone. (at least until the next episode)
But I am still addicted to it. Sigh.
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