It certainty seem the case to me, but I can only judge myself.
What is your definition of being filial?
Does providing monetary support count? Or is it going home on weekends for a simple meal? Or accompanying the elders as and when they require you?
Aint sure about you, but i think that the operational definition of filial piety has subtlely changed over the decades.
And while I might be classified as filial in this time and age, i will probably miss the bar if it was 20 years ago.
Personally, I would fail myself as a daughter. I am grateful and thankful but I have never really expressed that appreciation and gratitude. Maybe it comes from being quiet and in a traditional chinese family where feelings are never openly expressed. I do try to be good and available and all, but even in my deepest of heart, i do not think that that is sufficient.
I would recommend that you listen/read 弟子规。
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