I forgot what I wanted to write when I first came up with this title. hm...
Anyway, sweet sweet love seems to be a phase that most of us go thru when we are young and supposedly innocent. The belief in the everlasting powers of love, basking in the warm attention from the other half, etc.
So often do we see the 萌芽romance on the streets, the school gal and boy in the first bloom of romance. Most of the time it is sweet, until expectations are not met, promises not fulfilled, and changes evolving.
"Attached to your loved ones,
you are stirred up like water"
How true. When you really reflect, you will realise that alot of your identity is based on your relationship with the other half. You are identified as a wife, as a mother, as the daughter-in-law, etc. And your emotions tend to be tied to how things are going in your relationship.
Is it really worthwhile to lose your identity, to lose the peace and calmness?
When you are less attached (this doesnt mean that you love them any less), your emotions are more controlled, and you will not swing wildly from happy to angry in an instance.
You understand that while you love them, nothing last forever in this world/life, and you learn to let go of more. Let go of the anger when they create a mess, when they are not listening to you, when they ignore your instructions. You are attached to the fact that the husband should do so and so and so. Hence the arising of emotions when things either go or not your way.
I would rather be as calm as the surface of a pond than to be raging like a waterfall or rapids.
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